There's light at the end of the tunnel.

I felt so sad when I saw her status update in facebook. I felt sorry for her yet I know besides moral support there's almost nothing else friends could offer.

It never feels good when you witness an end of a relationship after so much has been given by either side and things didn’t work out eventually. Saw her cried in the office and was a little irritated with myself that there's nothing we could do to help. Sometimes things just happen even without you see them coming, there's no helping it. Life rocks, just that sometimes it rocks in a cruel way.

The bad side of it is that for you feel so very sad when things that you work so hard did not turn out the way you want them to be. The good side of it is that you can now work on something new from what you learn from it. Surely the outcome will turn out better simply because you are now wiser, it's just that to start anew you need a lot of time and courage. Some people have no luxury of that, fortunately this friend does. So good luck to her.

Let's hope things turn for the better from now on.

So much have happened. Open your eyes and look for a way out, for at the end of the tunnel, there will be light.

Signing off.

Boring Saturday post

I come home Friday night and found my graphics card died. Honestly speaking I haven't felt so bad in quite a while. Just so that you know I am a very fastidious person in terms of visual gadgets. I built my own PC so that it can displays everything in the highest detail possible. So when the key component in my computer died and not allowing that to happen, I was a little annoyed.

Luckily the part that I bought was 5 days away from 1 year old, which means that I can still send it for exchange and get myself a brand new one before the warranty expires. That's not too bad so when I got that conclusion I kinda cooled down. So, I went to the most popular IT building in town for a shopping with my brother today. The Lowyat Plaza.

This is a nice Saturday, instead of driving to town which is guaranteed traffic jam and expensive parking, we decided to take trains and walk a little. Some right decision made on a sunny Saturday, it was a pleasant walk. And soon enough we're there, the heart of IT for our capital city.

I haven't been here for a while, since I last built my computer. I like this place when I have something I want to check out or when I have something I want to buy but I’d never come this place without an objective. If you want to understand why, all you have to do is to pay a visit to that building, and I guarantee you will understand why I do not like to go that place for no reason.

Today's visit was fruitful.

My brother has been an eco freak for a while. He does some waste recycling and energy conservation at home, even when it comes to gadgets he has to search for something as eco as it can possibly get. So he has been having an eye for a solar powered high tech keyboard for a while. A keyboard that does not require anything else other than solar power to operate. Pretty neat I'd say but it isn't as eco as he thinks because the adapter that receives signal is still powered by USB, so it still consumes power, possibly more than a conventional keyboard that only sends signal via the copper wire and does not require any signal broadcasting of any sort. Oh well, as long as he's happy I guess.

I went to Lowyat to claim the warranty of my expensive graphics card, this part itself in my computer cost me more than RM800 itself. It's usually THE most expensive component in my computer whenever I built one. For some reason this part is getting more and more expensive each time I build a computer. The rate of the price going up is way faster than the rate of my salary going up that's for sure. Wonder if there's something I can do about that.

The technician told me that this part needs to be sent to Taiwan for RMA, and it's CNY so I've gotta wait a minimum of 1 month for it to come back... oh geez... 1 month without my baby GFX card... I'm gonna be so bored to death. Time to save up and get a new one. I think I’ll just sell it when it comes back.

Anyone wants a brand ASUS GTX275 let me know, I’m going to sell it.

What am I going to do this weekend... =(

signing off.

Ambushed.

I always wondered what I started this blog for. To blog about my life I guess. All of a sudden I have a feeling that I am repeating myself already for something that I already talked about in some previous entries. Haha too bad for you for having to read this again.


Lots of things can happen in a short time. Sometimes a lot of things happened not because of a lot of things have to happen, it’s because a lot of things don’t really happen until someone triggers it or when there’s an opportunity to happen all in one shot.

Everything happened in one shot yesterday.

it was a meeting that caught us out of blue, that happened all of a sudden. An email invitation came titled “team meeting” without any agenda mentioned to us. What happened in the meeting room, most of us would agree that it was to be named a “show down”.

For a while we have been doing some skip level meetings with our boss’s boss. We were asked to provide feedback so feedback were provided. It is natural in human nature that when you comment on something that could be improved, you comment on the short comings that you think it could be improved on. Soon the feedback became criticisms, and criticisms would lead to negative feelings and then to something worse.

That has been happening in the team and our Team Leader has been at the receiving end of it. For the fact that he has some negative traits that he might not have realized and him being not transparent enough of what he has been doing, he was depicted to be a good-for-nothing.

Yesterday’s meeting was tough.

The manager was invited into the meeting and he has played a major role in this turn around. Well, I consider it a turn around because this meeting convinced me that I should give him a second chance. Scrap whatever that I know about this person and then learn about him again. For me I believe everyone deserves a second chance because once upon a time in my life when I needed a second chance, someone whom his name I cannot remember gave me a second chance. Else I’d remain a high school dropout and a good-for-nothing probably for the rest of my life.

So words exchanged, in a positive way. It was difficult because the manager has pointed out things that we accused of the team leader of not doing, although no names were mentioned it was easy to understand who said what because the team is of such a small size. There’s nowhere to hide so what happened was that we had to stand up and speak the things that we didn’t. We told the manager things that we told precisely because we did not feel comfortable to tell the team leader. So it was a showdown.

We pointed out his short comings. I told him in the face that I didn’t like him and I did not have enough trust for him. That I’d work with him as best as I possibly could and I will give my cooperation to him to help him to gain the similar type of support from the rest of the team. However on a personal level, after working hours, at this point of time I would not even consider ringing him for a hang out, will not tell him anything regards of my personal things. I will also think twice in picking up his call outside of working hours. Simply because he has not done something that gained my confidence that he is a person that is dependable.

He took it well. I’m impressed. So that’s a good start.

He came to the meeting prepared with stats and data, we had no idea what the meeting was going to be about. It was a disadvantage for us because he has been asking questions as according to data he has and things that we are unable to say “no” because it was In fact the truth. He’s smart in that sense, he designed the meeting so that he would look good and so that our accusations would seem rather empty and were like firing blanks. The manager was not impressed with us because all the concerns we raised seemed totally untrue now.

We were caught pants down.

It didn’t go one way however. We are a department that has been constantly been making arguments and analysis with logic and facts without the aid of supporting documents. All we said were facts and we had no fear. So when all the arguments were brought up again we justified them. Most of the criticisms came from the 3 of us whom has been in the team long enough. 2 of the other team members who have been quiet suddenly rise for the occasion and started to speak for the team leader. So it was not a unified voice. Things got difficult.

I remained quiet for most of the first half of the meeting. Then I felt that I have to speak. The first thing I did was to identify myself with the criticisms I’ve made then I explained why these criticisms were made. I have also pointed out that how unnecessary this showdown was as this conversation should have been carried out 6 months ago and should be on a regular basis. So much time have been wasted.

I say he has himself to blame as he is obviously lacking in terms of connecting with his team. He is lucky with us as this team is relatively more enthusiastic than the other half. So good luck to him in that.

My principle is simple. I don’t have to like this guy but will ensure that I will be able to work with him. I will also try to get my team mates to be the same because there’s no reason for them to jeopardize their own career advancement just because of this fella. This place where we work is a stepping stone after all and we all want to move on the somewhere higher.

So far I dun find anything in him that I can convince myself that I can like him. His personality and his way of carrying himself are directly similar with someone that I really really really dislike. Too bad for him. Yeah prejudice I know. So what?

Let’s see if that’s going to change. Opinions are forever changing, albeit some are harder done.



Signing off.

Blowing things up won't help.

Honestly speaking I’m pretty demotivated at the moment. I have no idea what I should write about so what I did was just simply clicked on Microsoft Words and started typing to see what comes out of the tip of my fingers.


As I was typing the first paragraph I was also thinking about what I should talk about. I’m flooded with thoughts and I wonder where I should start. It has been eventful in the last couple of months. Either they are directly in relation to me or there are just things that have happened to people I care. I guess this is life.

In life there are always a lot of things going on and most of them are probably going to be unpleasant. More so if you are someone living in a capitalist society. Your happiness is sometimes directly reflected by the number of the digits about the amount in your bank account. Sad. Capitalism. I am by no means a communist. I mean, both capitalism and communism aren’t bad, they are ideologies and ideologies are always raised as an ideal model. Both of them are perfect in theory. It’s the people that are executing them that molded them into whatever they are now. Not gonna comment too much about that, I have no intention to make this post political or ideological.

Speaking of ideology, kinda reminded me with the terrorist strike at Moscow. These people who bombed the airport really need to get a life. They need to wake up and see that they are merely peons that were manipulated into giving up their lives for an ugly cause, to inflict chaos, to bring down a government only to allow another ugly one to take power, if it ever happens.

More details of the news can be found HERE. Do a little googling if you are intend to follow the news, it’s everywhere.


Speaking of terrorist attack, it reminds me of Tom Clancy’s Rainbow Six, one of my favorite military fictions of all time. It speaks of an international task force that’s set up to battle terrorism that’s too great for any ill trained local enforcement to handle. They go in, eliminate the threats, let the local police take the credits, and they retreat. A black ops team, a noble team albeit a little merciless. In reality it can never be true because a team like this would not have been approved by whatever country that’s involved simply because too much is at stake and it could be used by some major influence to turn them into an elite assignation team. Nah… not gonna want that. Who knows what the-country-with-the-highest-debt would do with them.

I miss the game though. There was a game called Tom Clancy’s Rainbow Six way back when the calendar just turned millennium, called Tom Clancy’s Rainbow Six 3: Raven Shield. I bought the game and played with my house mate. One of the most tactical game I’ve ever played. A game that not only requires a player to make live-or-die decisions on the fly, also a game that has so much realism and so strategic that I often beat players with are so much better than me in shooting.

Too bad that games that requires too much brain to play are just never gonna be popular. Computers games are often considered as child’s play and nowadays the children on the Internet dun seem to have much brain left. I’m feeling sad already. What happened to the theory of evolution? Aren’t we supposed to be moving forward? That puzzles me.

Anyway, the game was not intended to wow a lesser people. It was made for a pretty niche audience. I don’t blame anyone who does not play the game. That's why the game was not popular enough to get a sequel made. Sad.

It’s just a game, please dun jump on me for making such remarks. I’m just stereotyping. Nothing serious. It's my right to stereotype anything in my own blog.

Rainbow Six was fictional. Such a team never would have existed. It was a military ideal for all the people that are combating terrorism out there. Too bad it isn’t gonna be real. Never gonna come true.

I do think that people need to stop blowing other people up for attention. Honestly speaking, I’ve wanted to ask, what do you do with the attention you get for blowing up other people, while you are already dead. So what if you get the attention? You dun talk no more after you die. All you did was to allow people with agenda to take advantage of the fact that you blew up to spread their own agenda. Think twice brothers and sisters, before another one of you blow up. Whatever you are promised, it means nothing to you if you died. It means nothing to your friends and family if you died. It means nothing to the world if you died. Nothing can be achieved with bloodshed. Look at the most recent wars, nothing was achieved besides death, and then followed by more deaths. Save your time, save your life, get yourself a computer, a PS3 or even a crappy xbox 360 or whatever, blow things up virtually.

And then go back and tell your mom you love her.

Happy Chinese New Year.



Signing off.

What more could go wrong?

I am on leave tomorrow. For all the sad people out there who has no idea what “on leave” is, it means not having to go to work. I am on leave because the market I service is closed, and my service is not required, therefore 1 day AL (annual leave, yes I included this bracket to insult your intelligence) is deducted from my entitlement so that I can get paid and not having to log in into my phone.

It's Australia day tomorrow, god bless them, they really need a day off to take a breath from the flood and be ready to pick up what's left. My sincere hope that they will recover from this soon enough.

The world is never short of crisis, as big as the flood in Australia, as small as the personal matters in individual families. Just minutes ago, my mother has walked into my room to tell me more crisis that are happening within the family.

It's a little sad to mention all these but they are just things that have happened, talking about them wouldn’t make them worse nor it would make them turn out better. I talk about them just to talk about them, maybe to help myself think what are the most appropriate ways to deal with the circumstances. There really aren't much that I can do at the moment.

My mother has 5 sisters, my eldest and the third aunt are married, my second aunt, fifth aunt and sixth aunt are not married. Life has not been kind to some of them, some of them has already see better of their life years ago. For my fifth aunt it's already very little left for her to see.

She was diagnosed with some nervous system failure about a decade ago, a surgery only worsen the situation and eventually she was immobilized and had to live with the help of others. So has been relying on my second aunt's help for all these years. For my second aunt, age has caught up and she is finding it difficult now to carry my fifth aunt up and down on a daily basis. Fifth aunt's condition has been deteriorating over the years, and recently she is beginning to lose her sight. I could only imagine the despair that follows when sun light never wakes up with you anymore, she has to put it up with the condition. She was never someone that could take defeats well, more over a defeat that she was never given a fair chance to fight. I feel sorry for her but there's nothing I could do about it, there's nothing my mom could do about it.

Fifth aunt was admitted into the hospital last night, as the last of the light has left her world, they were trying to see if anything is salvageable from her eyes, for her to regain some sort of minimum ability of sight. Unfortunately the chances are slim but I guess there's no harm trying.

My mom came back from hospital several hours ago only to deliver more bad news. With my fifth aunt already admitted into the hospital, my sixth aunt is diagnosed with breast cancer earlier today. Doctor said not 100% confirmed but it's at least 90% certain. What's left is to do a further test to see if the tumor is safe to be removed by surgery. I didn't know what to say when I heard the news, I didn't show any apparent sadness or emotion. Mom was calm when she told me this, I was calm too. There's no point to be emotional at this point for something that has already happened, what's left now is to deal with it while we still can. I am probably going to spend my day off tomorrow driving them around between home and hospital.

What a way to spend a day off. I only wish that it would save something or someone. Then it'd be worth it.

Who knows what to expect next. What more can go wrong. I have no idea.

Suddenly I am starting to think life sucks. Although not completely.

Signing off.

Sometimes I'm just speechless

Blogging in the office is getting addictive, especially the last 10-15 minutes before my lunch time at 11:30am. That’s what happens with human beings, you get distracted by the most nonsense reasons possible, not because the reason is so strong that it justifies you losing focus but because you just want to be distracted. I admit.


Today is just another fine day with nothing special happening. The cute girl behind me is still whining about how annoying the guy next to him is. We have a fun chat about how we should get rid of him. Nothing sensible, nothing reasonable, nothing real, nothing logic but that’s why it was fun. LuLz.

Oh and that fella has never showed up on my blog before. Let’s feature him for a couple

One of the things that tipped the cute girl off is very simple. The guy next to her is just simply doesn’t cut it in terms of English language. It puzzled us that in a merchant service call center that stresses on world class services, how he could even be hired. I’m not even talking about accents yet(which he has a bad one), I’m talking about general English level that allows anyone to talk with courtesy and manners, using the correct choice of words at the correct occasions and situations. With this guy hired and is already confirmed to be a permanent staff (we seriously do not understand why) it tells you how much of a quality the person that decided to hire this guy. I am already feeling insulted with all the things that I had to go through back in my newbie days.

As a matter of fact, both of the newbies hired by the same Team Leader are just really below standard but for some reason they were confirmed as permanent staff for no apparent reason and faster than most people would have expected. The point is, from my point of view, they shouldn’t have been confirmed. I’m sorry to say this but pointing out the fact is just what I did. I admit I dun really like one of them and feel nothing about the other one but I really am not against any of them. Be it lazy or stupid it’s their own way of living, I don’t question their way of life as they do not cross my path. Or I should say, as long as they do not cross my path.

One of the new hire is a biggest lazy fat idiot I’ve ever known. I mean, I’m fat too, at least I’m willing to do what I’m supposed to do. Check out what he’s like in my earlier posts named “Lazy work mate”, that gives you a slight idea of what he’s like.

About the other one, quoting the cute girl’s words, he’s a “gone case”. He’s gone beyond salvation. Gone. Nadah, gone. He’s a banana. It’s a common term used here in this country to insult Chinese people that had English education. It’s discriminative. I hardly use it to describe anyone. A lot of my Chinese (as in MALAYSIAN Chinese) friends are English educated. They can only speak English and some Chinese dialects and I’ve never had a single thought of them being inferior. In fact some of them have such good English that I’m simply proud to have friends like that. The problem is this guy that I’m talking about only knows English but his English is so broken, even a car from pre world war one era runs smoother than he talks. I don’t blame him for not being to speak well; seriously, I blame him for working here thinking that he’s perfectly fine when we tell him what he needs to improve on. Having bad English is not a crime; having bad English and thinking you are absolutely on par with the rest of us while he is constantly making repeated errors is a SIN! How did he land the job? OMFG! Once again, proves that how bad of an idiot that interviewer was.

Bad at your job, fine. Bad at your learning, fine. Bad at hiring people… come one… he’s gonna bring down the whole team, or just screw the whole department’s operation balance.

Seriously, all hope is lost. Someone send us a Luke Skywalker.

Back to work.



Signing off.

Faint CNY mood

5 minutes on the clock away from the end of the working day. Doesn’t feel too desperate today as I already know that I will be staying back to go to a gym near my office afterwards.


Some teams on the same floor have started to decorate their departmental spaces with Chinese New Year decorations. Lanterns, Fire crackers, Ang pows, art works, things of the sorts.

A couple of my friends have talked about CNY not being especially engaging this year, about everything seems to arrive so fast this year that the mood seems to be a little difficult to get into. Since the fireworks are banned (for some reason especially for CNY) and no travelling plans insight any time soon, CNY is just another word for boring family reunion. I don’t mean family reunions are boring, I mean it’s a boring CNY with not much going on.

There’s plan for my family to go down to Johor to meet the rest of my father’s family as it has for the previous years. The driving distance from where I stay now and where the reunion is involves a driving distance of about 6 hours, in safe speed. In the recent years the reunion has been relatively quiet since my grandmother passed away a number of years ago. Every family has their fair share of issues and eventually it kinda affected some of the relationships in the families due to conflict of interests. Anyway, what’s most important is that everyone is happy to meet everyone during that reunion. For some of us cousins we only get to see each other once a year and this is the time, I especially miss the cousins.

Had a plan to stay back in KL and earn myself some extra income in the CNY public holiday. The company pays handsomely for 3 times the normal salary for staffs that comes back during CNY. Too bad my parents were quite upset of me thinking about not wanting to go my dad’s hometown. In the old tradition the whole family has to go back to the home of the eldest family member. In this case it’s my eldest uncle’s home in Kulai Johor. Man… long… way…

Oh well, so it’s decided that I’d be taking 2 and a half days off for CNY. Earn about 1k less in the next month so that I can be back to my dad’s home town for the reunion dinner… geez I’m really short on cash now. I think my dad seems to have forgotten that it was the same thing that he has done back in his younger days where work comes first. I dun blame him, just that he should have understood better that I am trying to earn my own living.

Gonna be here for the next 2 hours until a colleague finishes her work. She’s invited me to join her gym session today. I guess everyone is more motivated when there’s someone you know working out with you. Not entirely true for me but It’s always nice to have someone familiar roaming about.

Hoping that the rain doesn’t fall. The sky’s looking gloomy. Yikes.

I’ve missing quite a number of friends lately. Some of those that I used to like but hardly talk to. Just to mention a couple:

One has married to a Kiwi and is now rooted in New Zealand, last time I checked they were living happily ever after. One brilliant girl she was. I bet lots of professors’ hearts were broken when she told them they were getting married and is not going to continue with her studies. Haha. Kudos.

This one girl now working as an accountant in Singapore. Still keeping in touch on facebook but it’s getting difficult to get her out for a casual movie date or a casual hang out day. She’s been so busy that 24 hours barely seem enough nowadays. Nice fella she is and hopes her days turned out ok as she’s got some pretty bad encounters in China. Glad that things turned out well and good lessons learned. Hope things turn for the better, and her recent promotion is definitely one step forward. She’s gonna have a strong career there’s no doubt about it. Miss her lots. Hard to find a good hang out kaki nowadays.

Oh well, maybe it’s just the time of the year and the notion of “going home” that’s making me thinking all these. I was born and grown up in the city, it’s impossible for me to stay in the country side and do nothing for more than a couple of days. I’d die of thirst for information. Maybe I really should consider getting myself a smarter phone (I already own a smart phone) just to save my life.

Bah. Maybe next time.



Signing off.

Big fat liar.

Monday Monday Monday. Another Monday.


I woke up to my alarm with some difficulties to open my left eye. I thought I was tired. I woke up again to another alarm 5 minutes later. It seemed that my left eye was still sleeping. So I dozed off again waiting for it to wake up again. The next time I opened my eyes, time shows 6:25. I have 35 minutes left to get dressed, prepared, pack my bag so and arrive at my office.

Before left the house I looked myself in the mirror and found my left eyelid swelling. It’s swollen so big that I cant open it. Shrugs. It’s eyelid that’s swelling, not my eyeball so I guess all’s good. No reason to take MC as today is going to be painful if we are 1 member down again. When I arrived at office I was sure that I made the right decision because I found one of us are already on leave, if I were to take today off it’d mean we’d be 2 men down. Not good. So I quietly celebrated that to myself, it’s not like someone would care anyway.

Mondays are always busy. Looking at the emails that are flooding my box which 50% of them could have been avoided if the senders have more than 1% of their brain operating. For god’s sake isn’t the first criteria of this job interview to require for the interviewees to have “an analytical mind” before they are actually being interviewed? I am starting to doubt it already.

Early morning I’ve got an issue with my boss. I’m not sure if he’s been confirmed yet but gosh I’d be so facepalm if he is.

There’s a form that needs to be filled whenever we proposed for the company to absorb a merchant’s loss due to fraud or whatever. So it needs to be address to the right manager at the end of the form before submitting so that it could go to the right person for approval. A month ago when I raised it I questioned that to be raised to a certain manager because she isn’t the boss of the person that agreed with the request. My boss insisted that it’s the manager he said was the correct one. So in the end I had to go ahead with what he said, obviously because although I doubt what he said he is still of a higher hierarchy and has more power. So that was raised.

A month later, this morning a team mate checked with me regarding of that request not being actioned, I checked and the request wasn’t there. So after checking that request being missing, I had to raise it again. Before I know it the “right manager” that my manager was referring to walked into our department and raised this concern. So when she asked me why did I addressed the request to her, of coz I told the truth I told her that’s what I was told to do after my manager insisted it was correct.

Now to my shitty surprise is that my team leader jumped and quickly denied that he’s ever said it. “NOO” he claimed loudly. I wonder if he has realized it but I threw him a really nasty look and then I kept quiet. I hate people who break promises, I hate people who are late to appointments and most of all I hate people that lies. So happens that he is a blardy big fat liar in this occasion. He simply has no credibily with what he says and what he said. I felt rage. But I stomached it. Thanks to my ever bigger tummy, I think it contributed to my patience today. For the last 1 hour I have been refused to look his way or talk to him or whatever because I worry that the next word that comes out of my mouth would be some kind of insults. And insulting your boss publicly is the last thing you wanna do in office and if I were to do it, it’d probably be loud. So nah nah nah… not gonna jeopardize my career for this guy.

So I shut up and raised another request via the system again. Just so that you know it’s blardy irritating to do it because it’s a very tedious process. That’s what you have for a boss that’s not a man of his words. I’m already starting to feel sorry for the person that married him already. This is not an insult or being sarcastic. I do feel sorry for that person that has to deal with his dishonestly and irresponsible way of talking for life.

My left eye is still irritating me but the irritation seems to be going away. The swelling hasn’t fade. I’m having quite a little trouble in continue typing this. So I guess I’ll have enough ranting for the morning. This concludes here. I intend to post about something happy in my next entry. So screw this for now.



Signing off.

Communication Breakdown

I'm in the office working when I am typing this.

I really shouldn’t be typing this now but I really am in the mood of typing something while waiting for the next call to come in. Yeah that’s life in a call center on a Friday servicing ANZ market in the afternoon. Had a little chat with a friend during lunch about a little problem that she had with the boyfriend yesterday. It seemed quite serious before she talked about it. However when she told me about it seems like such a minor thing for
me. Maybe that’s because I’m an outsider so I can look at it quite calmly about it, while of course her who is caught right within is a little lost. 

The story is fairly simple. Her sister is sick and needs to be hospitalized. So somehow she sent a text message to the boyfriend telling him where she is and she has to take care of the sister’s kid and that’s causing her a headache. Now, there’s obviously something isn’t right here because when you try to text your boyfriend with your hands full carrying a baby having a headache and tried to text your boyfriend while you are already poor with putting things into words, things could go horribly wrong.

 And it did.


The meaning from the text message the boyfriend managed to decipher from that messed up text message was:

“I am having a headache and it’s so serious that I am now in hospital.”
 
Oops.
 
This boyfriend is a sweet guy that cares.
 
Oops.
 
He cares soooo much.
 
Oops.
 
And then he panicked.
 
Big OOOPS.
 
The poor fella tried to clarify before he pressed the panic button but obviously our dear friend didn’t realized it at that time she has replied a couple more text messages without clarifying. So the boyfriend really pressed
the panic button and decided to rush to the hospital to check on the beloved girlfriend.

Anyway, the situation finally got clarified when he was in his car on the way rushing to the hospital. No surprise that he got quite upset about it after he found out it was a false alarm. Which is fair.


So there was a whole lot of drama going on after that and my friend seems to be having a problem calming down this love beast of hers. So this morning she requested for help. Which subsequently ended up with me having lunch with her to hear her story.


I am no love doctor, so what I did was to offer some solutions from  what I understand in a logical way.


The boyfriend is upset because he cares and he thinks she toyed with her feelings. Which also means that he’s upset because he kinda thinks she is not taking him as seriously. From a guy’s perspective I also think that he got upset part of it is because he found himself so cares so much about this girl that he’s only been dating for a month.

So, the problem is, he is upset because he does not feel important.


Tadaa, problem identified. So what’s the solution?


I said: make him feel important.


Wow, sounds easy.


So she asked how. I had to scratch my head because I have no idea, because I’m not the one dating this guy. So I thought, tell him he’s important. Communicate the message. The trick is, to communicate that message effectively.

So what I suggested was really simple, get him to somewhere that nothing can possibly distract him, preferably somewhere that will have not hot babes walking by, and somewhere without a bed. Who knows what distracts an angry guy. First get his full attention, then tell him she's sorry, then tell him how she feels, then tell him how she cares about him as well. Be frank.

Then I told her. You're on your own. Cant help anymore.

The reason I’m telling the story is not because I want to saw how over reacting the boyfriend was or how insensitive the girlfriend was. What I am trying to say is that from this story we can see how important communication is for a 2 person in a relationship. I know I’m not even in a position to offer these kinda advises to be frank because I cant even get myself a date. Probably part of the reason is I can communicate easily to a girl that I like her and so she'd be scared away but that's besides the point.

I always like to bring up a fact that in a relationship the looks are always just temporary, they are for you to get each others attention when you first met. Then for the rest of your life it's the talking that allows you to communicate your souls. Be honest to your partners and discuss matters openly. When your partner did something that you are not happy about, tell him/her that you are not happy and then work out a solution that works for you both. Sulking is the most childish thing you can ever do. We are no psychics, none of us are.

So ladies and gentlemen, there's no excuse for you to be not good in communication, especially in a relationship. If you cant speak well, learn. If you cant write well, learn. Learn to communicate assertively. For you can't blame anyone when your relationship failed because you said the wrong things or same the right things in the wrong ways.

For the friend that I tried to help, good luck with your little chat with your boyfriend.

For other friends that are already communicating well with your other half, congrats and I believe you guys are going to have a happy relationship, and wish you live happily ever after.

No I don't have a girlfriend, just to answer someone's question. Girls I like tend to run away from me when I told them I like them. Shrugs

Signing off.

"Dun blog about work" They said.

I opened a notepad because I have something to write about and wanted to make a new post but before I could start, all of a sudden all sorts of things started to happen. Usual things that usually do not happen at the same time and they just did. I didn’t even have time to type the first letter until more than an hour later.


That’s office life in a call center. Things are always happening real time, you always know how much you have at hand but you never know how much time you will need to complete them, and you will have no idea how much shit is going to come on top to stop you from finishing the pile that you started with. Welcome to working life. The success of your career is probably measured by how much money you can earn before you retire, get fired, or die.

Ahaha… actually it’s not that bad.

Anyway, there were some concerns raised by some of my colleagues about me blogging about my work. It seems that the company has some sort of policy that I should not be explicitly express myself in an explicit way that I think my boss can do better. Since I hate blogging anonymously because that obviously defeats the whole point of blogging about my life and working is such a large part of anyone’s life, I will just continue to blog and will continue to dislike what I dislike but less explicitly. If that made sense to any of you.

I know it didn’t. It sounded as if I couldn’t care less.

I dunno. Maybe that’s how I actually feel.

Signing off.