Hanging Out

Hanging out is fun.

What? You dun think? You must be really sad, really really sad.

I mean seriously. Who doesn’t like hanging out with people that they can have a conversation with? Having a conversation is such an healthy thing. No I don't mean debate. No not arguing also. Nah not discussing. Nope I'm not talking your boy/girl/”somewhere-in-between friend.

I mean friends, genuinely friends.

No hanging out does not involve you sitting beside his table playing with your hand phone texting other people that isn’t physically there, that's call hanging AROUND, not hanging out.

No hanging out does not involve you going next to someone doing nothing and saying nothing important just so that you have an excuse being next to him/her. That's called being a pest.

No hanging out doesn’t mean whatever you do in the office. Period.

OK, sometimes it is but not all the time. I take back the word “period”.

I like people that I can have an intellectual conversation with. There are some people on this earth that they are so brilliant that it saves your energy to talk to them. Now that's eco saving, screw the inverters.

Some friends are so awesomely smart when you are talking to them, 3 words into the sentence they start to nod to give you signal of yes he/she understands what you are currently talking about so you dun have to do any pointless elaboration. Sometimes elaborating stuffs are FUN but no not all the time.

My point is, having a conversation involve both parties LISTENING to each other. Not TALKING to each other.

Now now, I understand that some of you might have something to say about that statement BUT I dont care. As long as you do not agree with the statement above, you are wrong, now go back to facebook and continue surfing because reading this blog is wasting your time.

Anyway, back to hanging out.

I've got this friend that we've both been saying “hey let's hang out” for more than a year and it didn’t happen. Due to some change to her career path we cant talk trash in the office anymore because that would involve her calling or us calling her on the phone and we are not supposed to even call each other during work for the fact that we work in a call center. Phew, that was a long sentence.

So, I was saying, it was her birthday a couple of days ago and some of the work mates were meeting up with her to celebrate her birthday. There's something I had to do and I just couldn’t adjust the time to make it happen. So being a total ass I called her a day before her birthday and told her “happy birthday”, and then I asked her to come out AFTER her birthday for a lunch, tea and more-if-necessary hang out session.

I always knew she was smart but there weren't chances for us to talk about anything in length. We had a nice chat today. Having a decent conversation is such a magical thing for you to like a person. I mean of course in the middle of that somewhere it includes about bitching about something that you both hates but hey, there are a lot of other things that you could talk about too. Things that you don't mind sharing because none of us would go around spreading what we talked about. That's a precious thing to have.

So the point this point entry is: People! I know all of us have this person or these persons that you have been wanting to go out with to have a nice chat, go somewhere together, do something together, eat something together or whatever. Give those people a call. Today, now. Who knows, you might discover a better side of your already-good friend(s).

I'd call that time well spent, don't you think so?

Signing off.